Love Essentially: 7 Tips to turn a first date into many, many more
By Jackie Pilossoph
We’ve all been there. You’re sitting across the table from someone who you think is close to perfect. Smiling from ear to ear, you sip wine and barely eat as you gaze into his or her beautiful eyes, unable to believe that after countless awful dates, you actually met someone who stopped your world.
I’m describing a really, really great first date. Unfortunately, no one gets too many of those, as lots of first dates end in disappointment, irritation, and nightmare stories you end up sharing with your friends. So, how can you turn a first date into many, many more?
There’s a lot of pressure with first dates when you’re a midlife single, especially if it’s your first date in a long time. Lunch dates are great because (much like a coffee date) the end time is pretty much determined in advance. This makes it easy to exit without awkwardness or excuses.
Another benefit is cost. If you’re unsure whether or not you’ll hit it off with someone, lunch is lighter on the budget than dinner followed by drinks and dessert. What’s more, the tone of the date is lighter and less serious so you’re less apt to be nervous for lunch dates.
You can always arrange your own lunch dates, of course, or you can opt to go with a service. Arguably the most popular service is It’s Just Lunch, which has been in business over twenty years.
There are a couple of dating business models I really like. One is called “It’s Just Lunch.” The site sets up a dozen lunch-date meetings. You chat over a delicious lunch and then say goodbye. If you like each other, you proceed. If not, it’s just lunch. Another model I like is the one where people are seated at a round-table dinner. Every 10 minutes people switch chairs so they are seated next to a different person. In one evening you have the opportunity to meet 10 or 12 different possible candidates for dating. It’s time effective.
When it comes to dating, online or in person, luck is involved. I know wealthy single people who paid exorbitant matchmaking fees and got no results. On the other hand, I know folks who used free dating sites and found their match. I think the key is to follow your own intuition about the most comfortable model to use and stay in action mode. When it’s no longer comfortable–stop. Explore other avenues. Don’t remain stagnant–keep trying!
Nearly 1 in 4 couples meet online, so WGN Midway News featured It’s Just Lunch Chicago Matchmaker Emily Fry offering her tips on how to avoid the pitfalls of online dating. Chicago’s Very Own WGN
Friday, May 24, 2013
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Friday, March 8, 2013
How to Date a Crazy-Busy Woman
Having dinner at home alone again? Blame her boss. Women are more likely than men to cancel dates because of work-related issues, according to a new survey by It’s Just Lunch, a personalized dating service for busy professionals.
In the survey, ladies admitted that they “always make time for dates” only 36 percent the time, compared to 50 percent of men. But that doesn’t mean that the foxy CPA is more psyched about tax brackets than cocktails with you. “Single women are more focused on their careers than their personal life,” says Irene LaCota, spokeswoman for It’s Just Lunch. “They have worked hard to obtain high-level positions and don’t want to lose this status.”
It’s Just Lunch asked more than 4,300 U.S. single men and women a series of questions regarding how they view dating issues related to work.
Forty-five percent of women said they like to talk about work to start a conversation on a date, compared with 30 percent of men.
Fifty-five percent of men said business discussion was interesting from time to time, but they preferred to discuss other things, while 11 percent of men and 7 percent of women said when work day was over, they preferred to forget about it and talk about anything else.
The survey also found: women preferred to date a business executive; men preferred a medical professional; more women preferred to not date someone who works in their office; women were less likely to date a client and the ideal first date was a drink after work.